What is Sexual Addiction?
Addiction may be present when one’s sexual behavior results in significant distress and continues in spite of adverse consequences. This behavior may include:
Patterns of Sex Addiction/ Compulsivity
- Fantasy Sex– sexually charged fantasies, relationships and situations. Arousal depends on possibility. Obsession & preoccupation prolong feeling. Masturbation may be compulsive.
- Anonymous Sex – High risk unprotected sex (usually oral) with unknown persons. Usually bathhouses, public restrooms, bars, locker rooms, parks, adult bookstores.
- Seductive Role Sex – Seduction of partners. Arousal is based on the hunt, conquest, and gaining power over another. Once “seduced”, arousal diminishes. Cybersex chat rooms, bars, health clubs.
- Trading Sex – Selling or bartering sex for power. Arousal based on gaining power/control using sex as leverage. They receive money, services, drugs, etc. in exchange for sex. Prostitution, swingers clubs, amateur pornography, sexual massage.
- Intrusive Sex – Boundary violation without discovery: Obscene phone calls, sexualizing conversations with people in inappropriate situations, sexual harassment, stalking, touching “by accident”.
- Exploitive Sex – Exploitation of the vulnerable. Arousal may occur in the “grooming” process of building trust in potential victims.
- Boundary violations – explicit, and often illegal. Professional misconduct; child molestation; child pornography; rape (stranger, acquaintance, or marital), violence against sexual workers (by clients/pimps), administering drugs or alcohol to victims, sexual murder.
Some other valuable sources of information include:
- Darkness To Light: End Childhood Sexual Abuse
- Male Survivor: Overcoming Sexual Victimization of Boys and Men
- Porn Help: Take the first step here